Do you understand what I am saying?

Communicating requires you to be able to successfully share an idea or feeling.  Just because you said or wrote something don’t mean that you were understood.  The giver and the receiver are both responsible for successful communication.  When you don’t understand, it is time to ask questions to assure a successful transmission of the communication.  This is true whether the communication is verbal or by expression.  Effective communication will enable you to connect with others, earning their respect and trust, assuring that you are heard and clearly understood. Sometime the case could be; did the communicator know what they said.  So you see, communication can be a dilemma if it is not done correctly.

Effective communication

Effective communication is more than the give-and-take of information. It is all about understanding what Communicationwas said, and is a two-way street, clearly stated and clearly understood. Communication deepens your connection with others. It allows you to communicate skillfully without causing conflicts or distrust.  When your communication is integrated, it is heartfelt (what come from the heart goes into the hearer’s heart). That is effective communication with intention. One must know what they’re saying, and skillfully know when it should be said.

Say What?

Were you listening? This co-important part of effective communication is very important.  Without it communication is impossible.  To often what is said and what is heard are two different things.  Patient and attention are required to be a successful listener. Another way to put it you have to want to understand what is being said.  Sometime, it may be necessary to re-state what was said to make sure you are understanding (did you just say that the sky is pink?). To be a good listener; set quietly, without interruption and or distraction. Don’t be hasty in passing information that is communicated without understanding. Wrong communication can be harmful, take an initiative to get it right.


Trust and Confident

Who can you have trust and confidence in

You should seek people that say what they mean and mean what they say; leaving no surprises.  These are people that you would know what they stand for.  When a person has proved them self in any given area you would know what to expect from them. Never take people lightly when you deal with them. You have only one chance to make a first impression. For example, if you promise something or an outcome make sure it happens, because if it doesn’t, you may not be able to earn their trust and confidence. Don’t promise more than you can do, even sincere good attention won’t help you when you continue to fall short of what you say you will or can do; if you come through more often than not you will earn the trust, and confidence will follow. We all want people we can count on in our life situations.  Be a person of trust.

I just missed it

Confession is good for the soul.  When we just didn’t get it right, we must admit it and put it to rest.   This will make a Confidentstrong relationship and is a quality that you don’t see that often. People just don’t want to admit it when they are wrong, and sometime, they will even try to make their wrong appear as if it is right.  When we fail in this area, we lose credibility.  To pretend that we did when we know we didn’t is a serious violation of trust. When you missed it, you simply missed it. Being honest builds trust and confidence. When you have done all you could do to to get it right, but did not, admit it, then you will have the freedom to pursue excellence.

Just be honest

Deception runs fast and will always eventually catch up. Somehow someway deceitfulness makes itself known.  You may fool people for a while, but not always.  It is all but impossible to rebound from being caught in the deception.   For an example, if It looks like a duck, if it walks like a duck, if it sounds like a duck, no matter what you call it, it is a duck.  Deceitfulness is just deceitfulness.  The people that you have dealings with are looking for value and quality from you.  What is produced by deception will kill all trust and confidence that may have been given to you. Keep it real for your honesty sake.

Make it relational

It is all about making it better, and or providing what is needed for the benefit of another; where all that is a concern will benefit from the desired outcome.  There is no more heartfelt thing that you could do than to initiate betterment in the lives of others. It is an uncommon character today but is much needed.  I personally want each of us to have and to be, better. UNCOMMON DO WHAT UNCOMMON DOES –


Is it all worth it?

This is a question each of us should ask ourselves, and other questions like:
  • Why do I do the things I do?
  • Are the things I do cost or is it benefiting me?
  • Is what I am doing add to my quality of life?
  • Is what I do, helpful or harmful to others?
Is it important?

What will happen if I do not? Think about what is the worst thing that will happen? What will I lose? When we take a hard look at most of the things we do it really don’t amount to a whole lot.  These things are robbing us of the time of the most important things we should do. The opportunity to be a blessing don’t present themselves every day. The opportunity is not always there to get a thing done, so one must prioritize, and keep first things first because time waits for no one.

You are the only you, you got.

You are the best that you got going. You are to take good care of you, not selfishly, but intentionally.  Think about it; how can you assist others if you are not functioning at your best mentally and emotionally. Traditional wisdom from the Holy Bible put it something like this; first, take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. It is a challenge, but a must to take care of you.